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Okay, for the most part, you can’t just go right to removing a woman’s clothing right away. You have to make her WANT to take those clothes off. But let’s look at the psychology of it.
Why would a woman WANT to take her clothes off? What is the reward for doing that? The answer… MORE PLEAUSRE IMMEDIATELY.
In the main book, I talked about how when a woman is on top of you, and you two are kissing… how you should reach up the back of her shirt and begin to stroke her lower back lightly.

Now, remember I said NOT to go all the way up her back? Why is that? I mean, you CAN easily reach up there if you wanted to. Well, the reason is that you don’t want to give her all the pleasure from those light strokes while she still has her shirt on.
She has to have some motivation for an immediate reward, otherwise she’ll just lay on top of you and let you rub her back. In order to make her want more, you can’t give her all the pleasure until she removes the item of clothing that you’re working on getting her to take off.
The same thing goes for the front. Let’s say you’re kissing her neck, and you slowly start to kiss down by her breasts. In fact, I usually kiss right on her nipple, but OVER her shirt and bra. Why?
Because she knows how good this would feel if you were doing this to her bare breasts, instead of her stupid shirt. She’ll feel a little pleasure from kissing her breasts over the shirt, but she’ll be annoyed that she can’t get to enjoy all of it.
Also, another method for making her want to take her top off is to kiss down her neck, and if she has an open cleavage shirt, start pulling it down a little, so you can kiss lower onto her breasts. But DON’T kiss the sensitive nipple area while she still has her shirt on…. EVER.
If she wants to enjoy THAT, she will take her top off. Now realize, a lot of the time she won’t just take her top off. She’ll wait for you to do it for her. This is extremely easy when she’s on top of you, because usually she has her hands on the bed on either side of you to support herself up while she kisses you.
Now is the perfect position to reach up, and undo her bra. And now you can stroke a LITTLE bit higher on the back, but still not all the way. Why are you doing this? Simple, now… she not only still wants to experience pleasure, but now she’s got this annoying feeling of an undone bra on her body.
So she’ll either want to redo the bra strap, or just take it off. And you know what, I’ve never had a woman redo her bra strap ☺

So remember, now that you’ve got her turned on, and you’ve got the bra undone, you’re 80% there. Now, it’s just a matter of time. Keep turning her on, and lifting her shirt a little bit at a time.
Usually what will happen is that you’ll rub her back, and as you’re lifting her shirt up, you’ll notice her arch her back forward a little. She’s doing this to make it extremely easy for you to remove her shirt, so take the cue and DO IT.
Oh yeah, and one more thing… there’s an important reason why you ALWAYS undo the bra before you remove the shirt.
That reason is, when you take off the shirt, you can just scoop up the bra and remove it WITH the shirt… all at once. Think about it… WHAT girl is going to want to sit there with an undone bra and no shirt? At this point, it’s either all or nothing, and they almost always go for taking them both off.
Piece of cake right? With some practice, you’ll be able to pull this off so smoothly that it will feel completely natural to the girl, because she’s so preoccupied with receiving more pleasure from you. Oh man, I love women!

In this special bonus, you will learn something that most men will never ever figure out on their own, and that is… how to strategically undress a woman to minimize the chances last minute resistance to having sex, and also turn her on to the point of having her want to have sex with you VERY badly.
Sound good? Okay, let’s get started.
I assume you’ve already read Secrets Of A Sex Magnet, and so you’re familiar with the basics of getting a woman back to your place, and preferably your bedroom.
So what do you do when it’s obviously time to start getting physical? Well, you certainly can’t have sex with your clothes on, so let’s talk about how to get those annoying clothes off

Personally I like to keep my women a good distance apart. I can remember one time when I was dating the 5 women… I was walking in a shopping mall with my arm around one, and one of the other ones walked right by me in the opposite direction.
She looked at me, and was visibly uncomfortable. I just smiled at her and kept walking. I asked her later if she was okay, and she said, “Yeah, but I guess I just wasn’t prepared to see that.”
Okay, did you read what she said? She wasn’t PREPARED to see that. She didn’t say, I can’t handle it, or I hate you. She just said I caught her off guard.
The reason she didn’t freak out is because I handled it in the beginning in the same manner that I described above.
I have to admit though, it did make me a little uncomfortable, and so I decided from then on to keep my women a good distance from each other. In other words… don’t take two women that hang out at the same bar, or go to the same school.
That’s not cool, that’s friggen stupid, and it’ll ruin your reputation. Don’t ever rub it in your lady’s face that you have other women. She’ll hate you for it. The way that you communicate that you have other women is to not always be available, and be vague when she asks what you’re doing tonight.
“Oh, I’m going out tonight, but I’m free tomorrow. What time can you come hang out?”… should be sufficient.
If she persists and demands to know, just say “What is this… 20 questions? This is not a very attractive part of you sweet heart.”
Okay so remember… keep your women apart from each other. Personally, I think the best place to find multiple sex partners is on the internet personals. Think about it, you can have several women who all live 30 miles away from each other, and they will never have to cross paths.
That doesn’t mean you should be dishonest, it just means that you will have more breathing room when it comes to choosing where to go on dates.

Remember in the main book, where I told you that in order to get your point across, you have to IMPLY something, instead of talking directly about it. Well the same thing applies here.
Now, you could just say, “Hey look, I want to sleep with other women and you at the same time.”, but if you do that… her social programming is going to kick in, and even if she didn’t care before… she will feel compelled to reject your offer. She has to, because she doesn’t want to feel like a slut who is being used for sex.
So how DO you communicate this to a woman? You imply it by saying something like this. First, steer the conversation in a direction that talks about how many guys hit on her, and how she handles it.

And then start talking about what kind of guys she usually goes for, and how those kind of guys usually hit on her.
Why are you doing this? Because you want her to start attaching benefits to your upcoming statement of dating other people. The way I like to say it to women is after they start talking about other guys, I say:
“Well sweety, you know it’s okay with me if you go on dates… you know that right? I mean, we just met and we’re getting to know each other. Most people jump right into committed relationships before they even know their partner, and I would never insult you by expecting you to do that with me. So I just want you to know that it’s okay with me if you date other people, just please don’t tell me any details about it okay? The time you spend with other people is your business, not mine. I just want to spend time with you and enjoy getting to know you, because you’re so sweet… and I like you a lot.”
BAM, now change the subject, and let that sink into her head for a while. Don’t argue with her about it, and just say it very “matter of factly”… like you are saying “well duh, the sky is blue… can’t you see that?”.
You see, what you’re doing is communicating YOUR policy but you are framing it as if you were talking about HER behavior. Let me explain. You were reassuring her that it’s okay if she dates other people, but inadvertently… you were also silently implying that it’s perfectly okay if you date others as well.
You’re also communicating a powerful silent message that says, “I’m not needy, and I don’t need your reassurance. I’m powerful enough to let you walk around without a leash, because I know that what I have to offer is so good, that if you’re smart… you’ll come back for more.”


Now of course, you don’t actually SAY that in words… but that message comes through loud and clear through your implications.
If she starts to argue, and says that she doesn’t want to just be “one of your women”, you can look at her and smirk, and just say, “Hey, I didn’t say that. I just said that I like you enough to respect your freedom. I’m not going to try to OWN you like those other jerk guys. Can you handle that?”

I’m telling you, this is powerful communication you’re doing here.

You see, if a woman is interested in just having fun, she’s not going to have a problem if you are with other women… it’s just that she doesn’t want to know about it. Also, you need to realize something else.
If you plan on sleeping with multiple women, then you also have to plan on giving your women the same freedom to enjoy other men. That’s just how it is guys. You can’t expect them to be monogamous if you don’t plan to be.
The time to have this discussion with women is up front, BEFORE you sleep with them. Why? Because if you have sex with a woman, and she’s under the impression that she’s sleeping with you in order to get closer to you so you two can start a relationship… and then you tell her that she’s one of many, oh boy… watch out.
If a woman feels like you deceived her into having sex with you, it will destroy your reputation, so make sure you proceed ethically and honestly.



Anyway, enough of the bad… on with the good. One really great thing about sleeping with several women at once is that it keeps your attitude as a seducer in the right place. What do I mean by that?
Well if you have several women who you’re banging, are you really going to tolerate any bullshit from any of them if one starts playing games? Of course not, and that will come through in your body language and communication.
I remember when I was dating 5 women at once. They all liked me SO much more than most my the 1 on 1 relationship girls did. Why? I think it’s because they knew that they were expendable, and that made them want to prove to me that they were the best choice for me to keep around.
It’s the strangest thing, but when women see that you are desired by other women, they will do the most unbelievable crap to keep you around. But on the other hand, if they think that you’re holding out just for them, and you start making yourself too available for them… they will walk all over you and assign a low value to your company.
Why a low value? Because you’re so easy to get ahold of and find. Suddenly you’re just an option that she can choose whenever she wants… like doing her laundry. On the other hand, if you are scarce, and she notices that other women are competing for your attention, she’ll get her ass in gear and work to keep you in her life.