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Remember in the main book, where I told you that in order to get your point across, you have to IMPLY something, instead of talking directly about it. Well the same thing applies here.
Now, you could just say, “Hey look, I want to sleep with other women and you at the same time.”, but if you do that… her social programming is going to kick in, and even if she didn’t care before… she will feel compelled to reject your offer. She has to, because she doesn’t want to feel like a slut who is being used for sex.
So how DO you communicate this to a woman? You imply it by saying something like this. First, steer the conversation in a direction that talks about how many guys hit on her, and how she handles it.

And then start talking about what kind of guys she usually goes for, and how those kind of guys usually hit on her.
Why are you doing this? Because you want her to start attaching benefits to your upcoming statement of dating other people. The way I like to say it to women is after they start talking about other guys, I say:
“Well sweety, you know it’s okay with me if you go on dates… you know that right? I mean, we just met and we’re getting to know each other. Most people jump right into committed relationships before they even know their partner, and I would never insult you by expecting you to do that with me. So I just want you to know that it’s okay with me if you date other people, just please don’t tell me any details about it okay? The time you spend with other people is your business, not mine. I just want to spend time with you and enjoy getting to know you, because you’re so sweet… and I like you a lot.”
BAM, now change the subject, and let that sink into her head for a while. Don’t argue with her about it, and just say it very “matter of factly”… like you are saying “well duh, the sky is blue… can’t you see that?”.
You see, what you’re doing is communicating YOUR policy but you are framing it as if you were talking about HER behavior. Let me explain. You were reassuring her that it’s okay if she dates other people, but inadvertently… you were also silently implying that it’s perfectly okay if you date others as well.
You’re also communicating a powerful silent message that says, “I’m not needy, and I don’t need your reassurance. I’m powerful enough to let you walk around without a leash, because I know that what I have to offer is so good, that if you’re smart… you’ll come back for more.”


Now of course, you don’t actually SAY that in words… but that message comes through loud and clear through your implications.
If she starts to argue, and says that she doesn’t want to just be “one of your women”, you can look at her and smirk, and just say, “Hey, I didn’t say that. I just said that I like you enough to respect your freedom. I’m not going to try to OWN you like those other jerk guys. Can you handle that?”

I’m telling you, this is powerful communication you’re doing here.